This is something I've to continue to be reminded of. My friend Mike reminded me that in the pursuit and life of authentic Christianity that one must live and know what it means to be fully Orthodox before we speak about what is or isn't (perhaps more importantly the focus should be seeking the beauty of what Orthodoxy is and calling attention to other people's beauty and allowing them to realize the voice of the Holy Trinity Who is in their midst.)
So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
(NKJV) James 1:19-20
Now the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace by those who make peace.
(NKJV) James 3:18
Here's a similar reminder by St Seraphim of Sarov:
You cannot be too gentle, too kind.
Shun even to appear harsh
in your treatment
of each other.
Joy, radiant joy,
streams from the face
of him who gives
and kindles joy in the heart
of him who receives.
All condemnation
is from the devil.
Never condemn each other.
Instead of condemning others,
strive to reach inner peace.
Keep silent,
refrain from judgement.
This will raise you
above the deadly arrows
of slander, insult, and outrage
and will shield your glowing hearts
against all evil.
+ St Seraphim of Sarov
