Every Action Proper

“To the extent that man does not use his freedom, he is not himself. In order to emerge from that indeterminate state, he must utilize his freedom in order to know and be known as himself.”

+ Fr. Dimitru Staniloae

"Every action of a person that is proper to them is ultimately an act of freedom. Love is the most essential act of freedom. Nothing can force me to love - for love cannot be forced. The transformation of the human being from natural existence to personal existence is our transformation from slavery to freedom. Personal existence is not a given - it is a gift of grace, the struggle to live as the Father lives, to do what we see the Father doing."

+ Fr Stephen Freeman, http://glory2godforallthings.com/2013/03/05/what-would-you-do/

The Gospel

"What is amazing about the gospel is that the Lord makes us free love with no agenda. I love you not so I can feel good about helping you, or because I want you to became Orthodox, or so that you will change and become like me. I can love you just because, you are you. Only this love is worthy of the human heart and is from God. This is what divinization looks like...to love as God loves."

+ Fr. Roberto Ubertino

One Word Unceasingly Spoken

"Prayer, people think, is about words, but prayer is entering the silence of one word unceasingly spoken in our hearts - love." 

+ Very Rev. Fr. Roberto Ubertino

The Saints

The saints were people just like all of us. Many of them started with grievous sins but through repentance they attained to the Kingdom of Heaven. And everyone who reaches the Kingdom of Heaven does so through repentance, which the Merciful Lord granted us by His sufferings.

In the Kingdom of Heaven where dwell the Lord and His most pure Mother, abide all the Saints. There live our Forefathers and Patriarchs who valiantly carried their faith before them. There dwell the Prophets who received the Holy Spirit, and by their exhortations called the people to God. There dwell the Apostles who died that the Gospel might be preached. There dwell the Martyrs who gladly gave their lives for love of Christ. There dwell the holy Prelates who followed the Lord's example and took upon themselves the burden of their spiritual flock. There dwell the holy Fathers who lived lives of prayer and fasting, and those who assumed folly for Christ's sake, all of whom fought the good fight and thereby overcame the world. There dwell all the Righteous who kept God's commandments and vanquished their passions.

Thither aspires my soul - to that wondrous holy assembly which the Holy Spirit has gathered together. But woe is me! Inasmuch as I lack humility, the Lord does not grant me the strength to fight, and my feeble spirit flickers out like a tiny candle, whereas the spirit of the Saints burned with a bright flame, which the wind of temptation not only failed to extinguish but set burning more fiercely than ever. They trod the earth and worked with their hands but their spirits continued with God, of Whom they were ever mindful. For the love of Christ they endured every affliction on earth, and feared no suffering, and thus glorified the Lord. Wherefore the Lord loved them and glorified them, and granted them the eternal Kingdom with Him.

+  Archimandrite Sofrony (Sakharov), Saint Silouan: The Athonite, (Essex: Stavropegic Monastery of St. John the Baptist, 1991) p. 398.

From http://prosphora.blogspot.com/2013/07/people-like-us.html

Liturgy Outside the Church

"Who...can differentiate the worldly from the heavenly in the human soul, who can tell where the image of God ends and the heaviness of human flesh begins! In communing with the world in the person of each individual human being, we know that we are communing with the image of God, and, contemplating that image, we touch the Archetype-we commune with God...The liturgy outside the church is our sacrificial ministry in the church of the world, adorned with living icons of God, our common ministry, an all-human sacrificial offering of love, the great act of our God-manly union, the united prayerful breath of our God-manly spirit... and it seems to me that this mysticism of human communion is the only authentic basis for any external Christian activity."

+ St Maria of Paris

From: Mother Maria Skobtsova: Essential Writings, 79-82.

Singing

"Sometimes singing in moderation successfully relieves the temper. But sometimes, if untimely and immoderate, it lends itself to the lure of pleasure. Let us then appoint definite times for this, and so make good use of it."

+ St John of the Ladder

Humility of Missionaries

"When spreading Christianity, the Orthodox Church does not have the habit of building on the foundations put up by others — establishing Christianity in places where it has already been preached. Yet other Christian communities often gather the crop where others sowed first, and they do not hesitate to seize “the sheep from the neighbor’s yard” with money and force. The Orthodox Church stays away from those methods which are sometimes permitted by missionaries of other confessions. She does not use unlawful means to convert people to Christianity, She does not strike bargains with the prejudices and passions of man, and She does not distort the purity of the evangelical Truth in order to acquire for Herself more members, since She is concerned not only about the number of the faithful, but also about the quality of their faith. But the most important fact is that the Orthodox Church conducts Her missionary work quietly, with humility and reverence, being conscious of the powerlessness of man and the strength of God. Missionaries of other confessions often do not mind to make noise, to make a din about their work. They meticulously record their heroic deeds so that the whole world might know of their actions and glorify them, and it is for this reason that they are much spoken about. But the Orthodox messengers of the Good News act differently. They undertake their holy endeavor not to gain glory for themselves from people, but to receive the mercy of God for themselves and salvation for others. They do not trumpet their own successes before the world, and they attribute them not to themselves but to the might of God.

...Can a Church that produces such selfless messengers of the Good News, who passed through the unreachable wilderness preaching Christ, and there gave their lives for the Faith of Christ — can a Church like this be accused of being lifeless, inactive, without a missionary spirit, and not concerned about spreading the Gospel?"

+ St Tikhon of Moscow, From the Homily Preached on the Sunday of Orthodoxy at the San Francisco Cathedral in the Spring of 1899

Five Talks on Marriage

Five Talks on Marriage
by Metropolitan Anthony (Bloom)

Download the PDF from http://stnicholasdc.org/files/Sacraments/Five-Talks-on-Marriage.pdf

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Marriage and the Eucharist 

Love as Freedom

"But I say to you," the Lord says, "love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, pray for those who persecute you." Why did He command these things? So that He might free you from hatred, sadness, anger and grudges, and might grant you the greatest possession of all, perfect love, which is impossible to possess except by the one who loves all equally in imitation of God."

+ St Maximus the Confessor

On The Challenges of Charity

"Renunciation teaches us not only that we not greedily seek advantages for our soul but that we not be stingy, that we always be extravagant in our love, that we achieve a spiritual nakedness, that our soul holds nothing back, that we not hold back anything sacred and valuable which we would not be ready to give up in Christ's name to those who need it. Spiritual renunciation is the way of holy foolishness, folly in Christ. It is the opposite of the wisdom of this age. It is the blessedness of those who are poor in spirit. It is the outer limit of love ... According to material laws ... if I give away a piece of bread, then I became poorer by one piece of bread ... (and by extension) if I give my love, I have become impoverished by that amount of love, and if I give up my soul then I become completely ruined and have nothing left to save ... According to the law of the spirit, every spiritual treasure given away not only returns to the giver like an unspent ruble but it grows and becomes stronger. He who gives receives back in return; he who becomes poor becomes wealthier. ... In turning away from the exclusive focus upon Christ in a genuine act of self-negation and love, one offers himself to others...then one meets Christ himself face to face in the one for whom he offers himself and in that communion he unites with Christ himself ... the mystery of union with man becomes the mystery of union with God. That which was given away returns. The love which was expended never diminishes the source of that love, because the source of love in our heart is Love itself, Christ ... Here we are speaking about a genuine emptying out, in a partial imitation of how Christ emptied himself by becoming incarnate in humanity. We must likewise empty ourselves completely, becoming, so to speak, incarnate in another human soul, offering to it the full measure of God's image which is contained in ourselves."

+ Excerpt taken from the essay: "Types of Religious Lives" by St Maria of Paris (Mother Maria Skobtsova)

“You will find that charity is a heavy burden to carry, heavier than the bowl of soup and the full basket. But you will keep your gentleness and your smile. It is not enough to give bread and soup. This the rich can do. You are the servant of the poor... They are your masters, and the more difficult they will be, the unjust and insulting, the more love you must give them. It is for your love alone that the poor will forgive you the bread you give them.”

+  Saint Vincent de Paul, quoted in Homelessness in America : A Forced March to Nowhere (1982), p. 121

“We should make every effort to ensure that each of our initiatives is the common work of all those who stand in need of it,” she wrote, “and not [simply part of] some charitable organization, where some perform charitable actions and are accountable for it to their superiors while others receive the charity, make way for those who are next in line, and disappear from view. We must cultivate a communal organization rather than set up a mechanical organization, Our concept of sobornost [conciliarity] commits us to this. At the same time we are committed to the personal principle in the sense that absolutely no one can become for us a routine cipher, whose role in to swell statistical tables. I would say that we should not give away a single piece of bread unless the recipient means something as a person for us.”

+ St Maria of Paris (Mother Maria Skobtsova)

"Unless you love, the poor will never forgive you for the bread you give them."  

+ St. Vincent de Paul, quoted in Fr Walter J. Burghardt's "Love is a Flame of the Lord: More Homilies on the Just Word" (Mahwah: Paulist Press, 1995) 139.